In Control: Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder

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especially as womxn, we all vaguely have an idea or an instinct of what the behaviors and manipulation tactics of domestic abusers look like. We all do our best to navigate the world as safely as possible, but there are some patterns of behaviour that seemingly defy logic, and an expert’s opinion (such as Monckton Smith’s) is a gold mine of information on how to understand these scenarios. As a police officer who works in this area this book has revolutionized my understanding of control and abuse with tangible changes I will take away.

I spend part of my working days travelling to and from visits as a Safeguarding Social Worker; for me listening to audiobooks has become a source of education and escapism. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. These things can happen in a normal relationship but if you’ve got someone with a history of control who is then going very fast, you’ve got loads of flags. e. all of us) is becoming more aware that domestic violence is a bigger, and more complex, issue than previously perceived and I would like this book to be required reading for a far wider group of people - it is only going to be through understanding that the outcomes for more victims can be changed. I found it really interesting especially as coercive control in romantic relationships is starting to be taken seriously legally and I think more people should know the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.she never pretends to be able to explain why these perpetrators end up becoming the people they are though, and she’s very frank about that. The most important thing I have taken and shared from this book was not to ask ‘Why didn’t she leave? I have spent a great deal of time trying to understand the relationship between abuser and abused, particularly in a partnership such a marriage, or parenthood etc.

This is a pretty good description of authoritarian bullies who feel justified in murdering their partners. Evidence of coercive control and physical injuries led to a reinvestigation, which challenged initial assumptions and resulted in Kasia’s case being correctly identified as a murder. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. I am always trying to make myself a person without weaknesses, but I know that the marginal improvement of individuals in the face of the structure is often not as good as a little luck.It’s a really harrowing experience to see the sheer number of examples for all types of scenarios in all types of relationships that she is able to procure.